To, The Broken Heart (a.k.a. Are you a Computer or a Car?)

Love is one of the best feelings that you can experience but it is ironic that something that can give you endless pleasure can also turn your life into a hell hole.

I have been in love, and just like everyone else, sometimes it was accepted and other times rejected . When things clicked even inanimate objects seemed to smile and on rejection a genuine smile seemed like a mockery. When the latter happens your heart will take over your mind and you will wonder whether it was your greatest loss. Sometimes it is true but most times it is not. When in doubt ask yourself, are you being a computer or a car?


WHAT?!?! ....... read on ........... both a computer and a car are extremely useful, actually a computer can do more stuff for you than a car but have you noticed how differently they are treated? Initially both get the same attention and respect, like you would take pride to mention it to your friends. But things change overtime, slowly but surely the computer is looked down upon as an archaic piece of equipment, it gets to hear comments like "oh it is so slow", "it gets so hot", "it is so heavy", pretty soon you are probably just waiting for the next good deal to buy a new computer.

On the other hand a car gets a personal touch, gets cleaned - at least from the outside, undergoes maintenance and gets complimented for doing its job. People are more forgiving when it breaks down or when it does not perform like it used to. More importantly there is touch of nostalgia when it comes to a car.

The poor computer takes care of more tasks, gets zero maintenance and on top of it gets berated and thrown out at the first opportunity. Long story short, no one, NO ONE bids adieu to an old computer.

So make sure you are a "car" for your sweetheart and not a "computer". Anytime you feel like the poor computer, just move, it is not worth your while.

**** This post was supposed to have been posted many ago :-) Currently I am in a state of 'better late than never' ****

Is it Love? Is it Affection? or is it C43_H66_N12_O12_S2 ?!?!

There comes a time in every person's life when he/she is at the threshold of making a major life changing, universe churning, decision in life where invariably he/she pauses and ponders on timeless questions like 'what is the purpose of life?' etc. However these are not questions in any sense but a path which if undertaken will lead to either a self satisfying realization and contentment or life long confusion and misery!

For me the time has come to ponder on one such question, 'What is love?' and to avoid all that I mentioned in the previous paragraph, I jumped straight into science to seek the one true answer, given the researcher that I am. And the answer is ....... Oxytocin, a mammalian hormone, whose overdose causes an optimal level of attraction and trust between the male and the female, which needless to say encourages our species to procreate. Yeeeeehaa I got it :-)

But wait a minute, if I were to express this reality while marriage or confessing my love or bonding then what chances do I have to play my role in the grand scheme of things known as evolution?? (trust me the answer would be something like....... infinitesimally small); hhhmmmmm there is a fundamental flaw here.

So let me say what I feel, which by the way is not a mere bio-chemical reaction but a mysterious outcome of a complex state of existence known as consciousness. Love is a very powerful and a wonderful feeling, often denounced as the nemesis of logic. Love by itself it too powerful and wild and as a result useless. Just as any powerful element, it needs to be channeled in the right direction to yield spectacular results (I am not talking of kids here!!, naughty naughty) and the institution of marriage is this very channel. Sure the enigmatic world of marriage will change a one way road into a two way road, but hey that is exactly what marriage is, union of two individuals; so do not expect anything more or anything less.
With these deep philosophical words, I would say that I am ready - any takers?

Disclaimer: Repeated use of such heavy wordings can lead to nausea, excommunication, isolation, and misery. For best results use it sparingly on an unsuspecting stranger.